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Being alone for this past week has been pretty much fine for me. If you know me well enough you would know i like to be alone to do what i want. Of course with a 2 year old there are some limits, but its been fine. My inlaws keep bothering me and trying to find ways to come over and break my routine. Sometimes I wish they would realize WHY I put this big brick wall between me and them.

I havent seen my dad in a while so when he came back from his vacation I asked him to come and spend some time with J because he has been asking for his Grandpa Jerry. So he hangs out at my house but then leaves. He never called me so when I got home I asked what happened and he comes over. I tell him that J goes to bed at 3. He shows up at 2. But instead of coming in and playing and spending time with J he sits in his car talking to someone on his cell phone. He did this for a half an hour. I finally came out with J and told him to come inside.

We sit and chat and play a bit and I swear every 10 minutes he got another phone call. All these people could have been called back later. He didnt even have to pick up the phone. Each time he would go into another room and chat. His time was limited and all he could do is sit on the phone with raquetball buddies and girlfriends. I finally kick him out around 4 and was going to put the kid to sleep for a short nap, at least. That just never happend.

Before he left I made plans with him to have dinner with us. So around 5:30 I call him to tell him that I am starving and i was planning on going to the pizza place. He goes on how he doesnt eat out and that he is watching what he eats. I tell him he can get a salad or something and he passes up. He refuses to get a pizza place salad and spend time with his grandson just so he can say he wont eat out.

What makes this worse is that he thinks he is doing something good for himself and all he is doing is hurting himself. He tells me that he doesnt believe all these food studies so he makes himself 3 or 4 hard boiled eggs and eat that for lunch. I tell him that he should stay away from the yolks and he says its all bullshit. He has dangeroulsy high cholesterol.

All I asked him to do is eat a salad with us. Spend some time with his grandson and he just cant understand that. I wasnt asking him to scarf down an order of mozzarella sticks or chicken fingers.