History of Leah

I need to vent right now. The husband has a cousin that is not too popular in the family. her name is Leah. She is actually married into the family. Anyways. We were close awhile back. back when J was little. A baby. We would spend countless hours on the phone talking, bitching, whining to eachother about the family and all the crap that goes on. When My mom got sick, she kinda stepped back. I needed some space too but I never not called her back or kept her informed. I woul dcall her when I needed someone that would understand or a shoulder. She was close to me. Closer than most other people in The husbands family.

Anyway. After mom died, I would try to get my life back together. I would call Leah to talk and then her father took a turn for the worst. Being that I am who I am, I bury myself in others. I lik eto be tehre for people who are in need. I owuld ask or talk to her or just ask her how her son was doing. She would just tell me things like 'idont want to bother you with the gorey details of my father' and I would just tell her that it was ok and she can talk to me. i understood her need for space and left it as that. We never spoke since.

Time goes on and her father then passes. It had been about a year after I last spoke to her with numerous attempts to call and see how she was doing or just to say hello. I call to offer my condolences and left a message knowing that she wouldnt pick up the phone. I sent a card and I had trees planted in Israel for the memory of her father. I then get her husbad on the phone to talk about the funeral and shiva. Simple stuff like where it is etc. mind you, this was in Jersey so it was a trek for us but we wanted to pay our respects. He procedes to tell me that I cant bring my son to a shiva call. We had no way of making the call unless he came with us. Anyone that could watch him was either out of town or making a call the day we wanted to also. So I tell him politely that We might not be able to make it and we will try to make arrangements. I then and apologized for that.

So still, I havent heard from her. A few weeks/months go by and she announces that she is pregnant with her second baby and its a boy. I call to congradulate them and had to leave a message. I tried again a few days later and again no answer and just left a message saying congrats. Nothing still.

She had her baby yesterday or today, I am not sure. I got a call tonight from FIL telling me the news and he tells me that I would e off the hook for going to the bris because we will be in Florida next week. I said straight out that I wouldnt go even if I were in town. He understood, but what makes me so angry is that I was close to her and now she makes me so angry that I wouldnt even go to her sons bris. I will send a small gift but that is it. We shall see if even a thank you would be sent.