And she does it again

My daughter is now 2 1/2 months old. Things have been pretty smooth with those around me thus far except for my MIL. My FIL has been pretty good these past few months and I think he may actually understand me a bit. But anyways, SHE has drawn the line with me and I am throwing in the towel.

Since the baby was born, MIL ignores the kid. We make a point every time she sees the kids that she should go play with him. She gives him 2 seconds (maybe 2-3 minutes) and then she grabs the baby out of whoevers hands that is holding her at the time. She always has to be prompted to play with him.

She gives me crap about washing her hands when she walks in the house. I always get the routine 'oh, i just washed just before i left my house'. um, did you touch your pocketbook? did you touch a car door? my front door? UGH! When we went to disney i witnessed her NEVER washing her hands when we were in the bathrooms at the same time.

We have a strict rule of no heavy scents around the babies. That means, no smoke, no cleaners and especially no perfume. Sooo, we told her to make sure she doesnt wear any perfume to the hospital. Ok. Fine. but since she was born 2 months ago we have had to remind her 4 times that we asked her not to wear it (or to at least make it very light) and this past weekend she stunk up my house so bad i STILL cant get it out.

The list goes on. So today we are talking about the kid and his school schedule. She then asks me if she can take the kid in the afternoon after school. I tried to be so freakin polite i almost swallowed my tongue. I said that we will see but his schedule is so tight. I think she got the hint that the answer was no. And not just no but HELL NO!

You see, she doesnt even try to have a relationship with my son when she is already around him. She disrespects me and the kid is not too fond of her. Oh, and ontop of all that, we have asked her to wear sneakers or low shoes so she can help chase him around in the malls or stores and she still wears her friggin 4 inch heals. UHHH. Did i say HELL NO?

Also, my in-laws see the kids on the weekends AND they take him every week for dinner alone, without us. To me, personally, they see him enough. AND the kid still doesnt like her. She tried this before and I just cant stand to have her around. I stated to the husband that she never respects me and she still talks about me infront of me (thinks i dont see her holding her hand over her mouth and she forgets that my ears are younger than hers) She seems to forget simple requests that directly involve our kids health and safety and well, i am just no that damn comfortable.

It took me forever to be ok with both of hem to take him alone. The only time he was alone with my FIL is when i had the baby cause MIL was ill.

The husband did say he will talk to them. He is sure that his father was pushing her to do this (once again) and he is going to state that he has to stop pushing MIL to do things during the week because hell would have to freeze over before i will leave my children with her or have me be in the same room with her alone (with just the kids). The husband also said some other things that made it clear that he agrees with me that this was completely inappropriate.